Domestic abuse

Domestic abuse can happen to anyone regardless of their gender, age, sexuality, race or lifestyle.

Domestic abuse is not always a one-off episode, but an ongoing display of controlling and coercive behaviour. It involves a pattern of abusive behaviour through which the abuser aims to gain power over their victim. Abuse often gets worse the longer it goes on. 

Abusers use controlling behaviour to make a person dependent on them. They do this by isolating their victim from friends and family, taking away their independence and managing or checking up on their everyday behaviour. 

Through coercive behaviour an abuser aims to harm, punish, or frighten their victim into submission and silence. This can be through assault, threats, humiliation, intimidation or other types of abuse.

Domestic abuse can take the form of:

  • physical abuse - including punching, slapping, pulling hair, biting, burning and choking

  • financial abuse - including being kept without money, forced to account for your spending and having your wages or benefits taken from you

  • emotional abuse - including verbal abuse, being made to look stupid in front of other people and not being allowed to see family or friends

  • sexual abuse - including rape, sexual assault, being forced to watch or take part in pornography and indecent phone calls

  • threats - including verbal or physical threats and being watched, followed or pestered


In an emergency, if you’re being attacked or abused, call 999 immediately. 

If someone is attacking you: 

  • try to get to a room with a door or window so that you can escape

  • get out of the house and call the police as soon as you can, or call out for help

  • don’t go back into the house alone

If you’re experiencing domestic abuse you should:

  • seek help from someone you can trust

  • carry a list of phone numbers of people and organisations who can help you

  • always carry a mobile phone, or know where you can make a phone call in safety 

  • always carry some money, so that you can use telephones, public transport or taxis

  • keep your own set of keys for your house and car

  • plan in advance where you would go and what you need to take if you had to leave

  • keep a packed bag in a safe place, in case you need to leave in a hurry

  • contact support organisations for advice about where to go

If you’re planning to leave, tell someone you trust where you’re going and avoid confrontation by leaving when your partner is not at home.

Victims First

Help for men and women affected by crime and abuse – visit the Victims First website or call on 0300 234 148.

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